Does Placing “Fault” Help?

Stating “Its My Fault” doesn’t ever feel very good to admit.  When something goes awry it is human nature to want to affix the “blame” to someone or something else rather than look in the mirror and say “It’s My Fault”.

When money is lost at the blackjack table, it is common to hear players lament about a “bad” dealer or a “bad” card shoe.  This is lots easier than a player looking at him/herself and think “I am stupid to sit here and lose money because the odds are against me.”  When your favorite sports team loses, placing the blame on a funky bounce of the ball or player feels better than admitting to yourself that your team may simply not be as good as the one that has beat them (Any other Mets fans out there???)

Turning to the weight control arena and our nation’s obesity epidemic, where does the “fault” or “blame” reside?  Is it the manufacturers of processed foods?  Fast food companies?  The school system for not educating the children well in nutrition?

Looking more inward, is there some internal “fault” beyond one’s control, such as a sluggish thyroid?  A really slow metabolism?  Some other chemical imbalances that cause great difficulty in losing weight?

I have treated thousands of people and a very common scenario involves overweight/obese people spending negative energy trying to affix blame or fault to the situation.  Many supplement companies and marketing groups have preyed on our desire to find something identifiable that is causing the weight control issue.  And oh, by the way, they have some product to sell you that will purportedly fix this.

Here is Posner’s take on this:  Difficulty in losing/controlling weight is due to multifactorial reasons.  The best course of action is to spend positive energy identifying individually what these reasons may be and then proactively addressing them.  The act of spending negative energy lamenting the sources of fault/blame does not help the end result.

You CAN lose weight despite the myriad roadblocks along the journey.  Do not spend lots of time lamenting about those roadblocks, but rather, work on ways to get around them. 

Author
Nataliya P Serotonin-Plus Counselor

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